Everyone has heard of the BIG FAT Indian wedding. And it’s even more so, if it is a Punjabi one.
We recently celebrated my brother-in-law’s wedding. There was a lot of excitement in the family and although the parent’s did most work, we thought we were busy too.
Amidst all this, my wife, Deepti, had an idea, “We should do a dance performance for the newly-wed couple.”
I affirmed that this was a superb idea.
A few days passed and then, reality set in. It now appeared like a daunting task. One that would involve so many decisions, – hire a trainer or prepare on our own, which dance form given our body’s (in-) flexibility levels and so on..
Besides, we would be working and have two kids to manage. I was very skeptical about being able to pull this off. This idea had every chance of dying prematurely just like most ideas do.
Thankfully, something changed.
Deepti asked me to take charge. “Manage it like a project and just make it work”, she said. I felt a sense of ownership. Giving up was not an option any more. I started asking, “How to make it happen?” rather than “Whether it would work or not?”.
Ask the right questions, for our questions create a mindspace where we spend all our time
Deepti, of course, helped in every way possible – from searching for the trainers, to doing the cost-benefit, to selecting the songs. We decided that a trainer closer home would suit us better. It was December and it’d be tough to go to a distant place in the chill. Our trainer made it even easier by suggesting that he could come to our place instead. That was so Wow.
But there were several other occasions too when we wanted to give up. It is so easy to give up.
I was not even feeling well at one point and the last thing I wanted to do was practice my dance moves. We still kept going, slowly but steadily. I think it was our motivation that kept us going: We would be so proud to have danced for the couple that is so dear to us. It would make fond memories that we will cherish forever.
There was another roadblock of getting the song clip from our trainer. We had moved to my bro-in-law’s place and were busy with other aspects of the wedding. Once again, our trainer came to our rescue. Then, a techie friend of mine figured a way to carry the songs to the venue where we were supposed to perform.
At the time when we were supposed to shake a leg, we got busy with the guests and having our photographs clicked. I don’t know about Deepti but something kept telling me even then to forget about our dance –
- We haven’t rehearsed enough!
- What if we forgot the steps?
- It’s embarrassing to face such a large audience.
But then, there was a motivating inner voice too, which told me the opposite –
- Don’t even think of giving up after having come so far!
- Do everything possible to make your idea a success!
- Remember your motivation.
It dawned on me that it didn’t matter how perfectly we danced. All that mattered was that we danced and made it entertaining. We were prepared enough to do that.
A good plan today is better than a perfect one tomorrow.
Our good plan was in place. I mustered some courage (read: gulped down my drink) and whispered into Deepti’s ear, “Let’s do it!”
She said, “Okay!”
It was as if she was waiting for me to ask. We were all set. An announcement was made. We were on the stage, yes, dancing. We were having a lot of fun. I remembered our trainer’s tip, “Just enjoy and sing along and it’ll be easy.”
When our dance ended, we hugged. I heard an applause. We had inspired a few other performances too, including our five year old son, Tanav’s.
Some appreciations followed.
I am not sure if people liked our show or if they were just being nice. But I am sure we will look back at this and it will always bring smiles.
They say that “If you desire something with all your heart, the whole world conspires to fulfill your desire.” That proved to be true in this case too.
Our best wishes to the newly-wed couple: Your love is beautiful and inspiring and we look forward to seeing it grow. Always.