Papa, if all our family members get COVID, then what would happen?”, asks my seven year old daughter, Sohana.
She’s such clear with her questions and so expressive that I miss a beat when a question like that comes.
However, Dinky and I have made one rule, and that is that we have to stay calm no matter what. Calm is infectious (..more than the virus!) and that’s all we need at the moment.
Otherwise, we’ll lose it all even without giving it a fight.
The delay in my response has already given the little mind enough ideas, and I can see the BIG tears rolling down her face turned smaller than usual because of the anxieties.
So, I tell her very matter of factly, “Nohana, we have to keep our immune system intact.”
Now, she’s listening. She wants to know more, the sudden stopping of her tears tell me.”
It’s strange I can tell that, even while she’s mostly covered in her face with the mask, which too appears too big for her small face.
“Doctor Mamu was telling me earlier today that even if a virus attacks our body, our body soon starts fighting with it. If our immune system is good, not only would it kill the germs, but it would also make our body stronger next time. That’s how nature works.”
“Nohana, what can you do to keep your immunity high?”, I asked.
“By thinking good thoughts, eating good food and staying hydrated”, she said confirming she knows it all.
She smiled. After all. She adjusts her mask, which is flimsy dealing with the cold, the tears, the cough.. too much for it to handle, apparently.
The date today was 27th Sept, and today was the first day, since 7th Sept, when I actually went out to the balcony with her. Of course, still fully geared with my mask, and a bottle of sanitiser which has suddenly become such a constant in my life.
That’s all we can do, guys. Sohana know it and so do we all. We may not be able to protect us from the virus, despite our best efforts. I thought I was cautious, my family was cautious ,,but it did happen.
The good news still is that we still have a lot in our control – and it starts with what our intake is: mental intake as well as physical. That’s what would keep us strong to fight it, in case it comes. Here’s my daily checklist for your reference. This is, of course, in addition to the medicines which you may be prescribed:
- Vitamins C
- Zencovit (Zinc)
- > 1.5 L Water
- Fruits including banana, apple, anaar,
- Nutritious Food
- Coconut Water
- Hot ginger water
- Reading and Listening list:
- John Maxwell’s “Make Today Count”
- Easy Translation of Bhagwat Geeta
- Humour they say creates positive hormones. I was reading a book called FML (Viewer discretion advised: 18+ 🙂 ) which I find quite funny actually.
- The survive and thrive podcast by John Meese. (Yeah, I want to thrive not just survive..)
Now, is there any of the above that is not “still” in your control? With a little support from your family or caretaker you can manage it all easily. Do it for your kids too.
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Post this emotional furore, Sohaan and I did some more usual talk, the more 7 year old types. “Papa, how many days before I can hug you?” .. “OK.., and Mama?”..
It was such a comfort to have her speak out cheerfully like that.
I can’t explain what it means to me now to have a “normal talk”, “a dinner together”, “standing beside each other”… after having lon..ged for it for so long.
We had our one:to:one time may be after a month. I don’t know how much comforting was it for her, but I certainly felt blessed.
Tanav, my 11 year old son, chose to stay inside. In his room. I later figured that he was talking to his mom while I was with Soha. He needed the one:to:one time too. He has his own emotions and so much more to deal with.
It seems like they’ve grown up much faster in the last 3 weeks than they have in years. They’re on their own, and even taking care of each other. They’ve, once again, surprised us with what they can do and achieve.
Of course, children, like we all, have their emotions, all we need to do is to support each other so we open up to our emotions and find good ways to deal with them.
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How would you answer Sohana or your child if they asked, “Papa, if all our family members get COVID, then what would happen?”