[5-Bullet Tuesday]: Are You Going All Out?

Hi All!

Here is your weekly dose of “5Bullet Friday,” a list of what I’m enjoying or pondering.

What I’m reading —

Bounce Forward by Sam Cawthorn. I was introduced to Sam just last week. He was one of the keynote speakers at Oration 2019 Conference at Kolkata last week. I was very impressed with his turnaround story.

Me, Sam, and my children: Tanav and Sohana

He is a 6 foot 3 inches Australian who met with an accident that nearly killed him in 2006. He lost his right arm in the accident and injured his right leg so badly that most of it is now synthetically rebuilt. However, this accident made him reassess his priorities in life and change the game for him completely. He eventually bounced forward rather than just bouncing back into the older version of life.  He thinks there is something fundamentally wrong in the idea of bouncing back when you are in crisis. Little wonder then that he owns the first 14 pages on Google when you search “Bounce Forward“.

He has written 7 books including 2 International Best Sellers and is now an internationally acclaimed motivational speaker and coach.

What I’m watching —

I was in Kolkata last week. It has such an old world charm attached to it: The yellow Ambassador taxis, the tram, hand pulled rickshaws and the ferry ride to Howrah bridge. One can’t be left untouched by the simplicity and the beauty of the place.

Now that we’re back, I am watching the yesteryear’s Malgudi Days episodes

Deepti, my wife, having Kullad Tea (Tea in traditional handle-less clay cup)

which is yet another recollection of the times gone by. My kids also love watching this over three decades old TV show.

One thing that remains the same through of the changing times is human emotions. It is these emotions which connect us and traverses time. No matter what the latest technology brings and how our day to day lives differ, these feelings and emotions would still bind us together.

Resource I’m excited to explore —

This week, I had some time to consider the resources that I already have available that I am not utilizing fully. For example, I am already a member of PMI International (Project Manager’s Community) which is offering a free of cost Meet and Greet Conference to members. I registered for the same for the first time and am looking forward to attending on 22-June.

I am also attending the Family Day event at British Council on next weekend. Again, something that comes for free for members which we already are.

Also, I am excited to test myself as a potential Area Director for Toastmasters International. Having spent 5 years with TM, I think it is the right time for me to contribute and grow further as a leader at a broader level.

So, which are the resources you already have that you aren’t fully leveraging?

Perhaps, it’s time for you to go all out – to utilize your existing resources fully to help you become the person you always wanted to be!

Quote I’m pondering —

It takes 99 Nos to get a Yes. – unknown

This implies that we should be happy when we are rejected. For every No, is taking us one step closed to a Yes!

And, as always, please give me feedback. Which bullet above is your favorite? What do you want more or less of? Other suggestions? Let me know!

Have a wonderful week, all!

Mohit

Husha busha! We all fall down!

Elections fever is on in the country in full swing. And it’s so contagious that not only are people talking about it, but they are living it as well.

It shows in everyone’s tone, pitch and moods.

Delhi-ites who are anyway (in)famous for wearing their hearts on their sleeves, are out of control these days, as Delhi goes to vote tomorrow!

Everyone seems to be at their best in terms of their Political Quotient – strategy, sharpness and shrewdness. It’s certainly not a good time to take a panga (Hindi for getting into an argument, or doing something objectionable that may raise eyebrows) with anyone unless you are ready to bear the brunt of their heightened aggressive state at this  time.

TV, Social media, morning walks and coffee conversations are all full of these discussions. There’s a lot of listening from here and delivering there happening too. Everyone is sharpening their own political savvy, grasping all they can from the myriad sources and then experimenting with it at every opportunity they get – at office, home, and other social circles. And why not? It is, after all, “Practice that will make them perfect”!

So, if you are feeling the heat of it all – One, you are not alone, and two, this too shall pass. 

Forewarned is forearmed, so don’t get taken by surprise if that happens to you. In fact, you yourself may be party to this, unknowingly! So don’t get carried away and keep in mind why this is happening the way it is.

Just hang in there. You don’t have much choice except for going with the flow. While you’re at it, perhaps enjoy it while it’s on. 

Expect to see enhanced drama and prudence from spouses, in laws, bosses, and colleagues..everyone! Bear in mind that some are doing it consciously and some unintentionally.

You may be seeing interesting patterns of what is happening around! It may seem that India’s political scenario, the office happenings and what’s happening at the home front isn’t much different.

In this politically charged, highly polarised climate, here are some scenarios that are likely to happen:

  1. Those you always thought were your closest confidantes, say something that crushes you and shakes your age old beliefs! For example: your soul mate tells you that ‘You never understood them!’
  2. You may catch someone talking behind your back first time ever!
  3. You get new labels – ‘The biggest con’, a trickster, a liar, thoughtless or it could even be ‘a traitor’.
  4. Your dear ones bring back and blame you for 1-5-10 or even 20 year old incidents.

Well, IT’S NOT THEIR FAULT! Stop being a Pappu and know where exactly is all this coming from!

Moreover, if “Chowkidar Chor Hai” (Gatekeeper is a thief – Rahul Gandhi’s pet phrase for Prime Minister Modi), then all this isn’t all that bad either.

This is the time when politicians bring even the dead back to earn some brownie points, so bringing the past can’t be considered unacceptable either!

It’s politics, it’s rhetoric, and it’s the climate these days. It’s alright to make a few below the belt attacks to grab attention, don’t you think?

While the politicians will form real alliances and win constituencies, the ordinary people like you and me would only ‘get over’ this once as time passes. Well, only to repeat it five years from now.

There is some good news though. You can also expect the ‘apologies’ coming your way, after all. All varieties of them – genuine ones and forced, conditions applied and unconditional!

Good and Evil coexists in us. The word for this is Agathokakological: Shashi Tharoor

If it is getting too tough on you, even after knowing why it is happening, then here is what you should do:

If you see your child playing in the mud, what would you do?

To get your child out of that, you would get into the mud yourself, get dirty, even play a bit in the mud and then try to convince your child to get out of there. You will have much more chances of getting them out of there that way.

You’re loved ones are not much different. They are not bad people. Every one has a good and an evil side (Agathokakological). Dirty politics rubs off on people and enhances the evil side. So, go where they are, play with them the game they’re playing right now.

When they are tired of it all, they will come out while holding your hand.

Five Minute Journal: Know What Type is Your Bad Boss!


Quote of the day: Life is either a Daring Adventure or Nothing at All! - Helen Keller Click To Tweet


I am grateful for…

  1. ..the timing of my next career move. It just couldn’t have been any better than this (at least, that’s what I think!). Thank you, God for that! In a world where we are habitual of complaining when things don’t happen in harmony, I’m glad I recognize and appreciate the glory bestowed by God when it all played out so beautifully and in synchronization. It’s unbelievably bizarre and somewhat surreal. Thank you!
  2. ..Walking down the hallway of the office yesterday, I met this guy who was frustrated with his Boss. Well, nothing unusual there, most people are! However, in talking to him, a clear distinction emerged among Bad Bosses. There are two varieties that one has to watch out closely for: There are ones who are nasty because they have an evil, vicious, and cleverly designed nefarious strategy, and then there are the others, who are nasty because they don’t know any better. Understanding this subtle difference can help you determine which type of Bad boss are you dealing with (God forbid, but Shit does Happen!). This will make a huge difference in the way you would deal with them and emerge a winner. 
  3. ..Read an article where the writer had written at the cross-section of politics and economy. The article was about how Jet Airways, which is in dire straits at the moment, is not being given a preferential treatment. This is unlike what happened in the case of erstwhile Kingfisher Airlines. Kingfisher Airlines eventually couldn’t survive the bail outs and the loans it was bestowed upon by Big brothers (nexus of Banks and Political parties). Anyway, besides it being a nice article, the LIGHT BULB moment for me was that I also have a similar style of writing – at the cross section of personal and work lives. Thanks for igniting in me the light once again to write in my own unique style and be of some service to myself and the society.  

What would make today great?

  1. ..I have realized that some of the really important personal tasks keep living in the To-Do lists. This happens when others are driving their priorities through you and you yourself are not focusing enough of what’s important to yourself. I am planing to pick up one such long overdue and yet very important (almost life altering potential) task today. Amen. 
  2. ..Fill my emptying fuel tank. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. Not only dull, but also tired and demotivated. Having you foot on the accelerator all the time is not a winning strategy when you are running a long race. It’s important to regularly stop – to check the tires, fill the gas and then continue the journey. My tanks are emptying too – To start with, gotta get myself a new pair of glasses (One I have is on the verge of breaking and besides I guess I need another one for farsightedness. Isn’t it funny, I’ll be farsighted and nearsighted both at the same time!Leaderly Quote: Having a bad boss isn’t your fault.
  3. ..In Business, it is common practice to make well thought out investments to reap greater returns in future. Not so common when you are offering your services i.e. when you are an Employee. What investments are we talking about for salaried people, most would say. You’re getting it all wrong. No matter which industry you work, in order to remain relevant in the ever changing job market and disruptions happening in business worlds, one can’t ignore investing in oneself – upgrade/ enhance/ diversify your skill set alongside your current job. There will never be a perfect time. Enough of the build up (word for it is “circumlocution”), I am enrolling for the PgMP certification today.
Daily affirmations. I am …fearless! 
 
Amazing things that happened today…
  1. ..Back in touch with my batch mates from St. Stephen’s. Quite a bit of catching up to do though. Well, not only about the years that have passed in between. Honestly, I just wasn’t present most of those 3 years to know much about them back then. There’s always a first time.
  2. ..Glad to have done with my glasses – a new frame for my old glasses. Not bad at all. Feel accomplished.  
  3. ..Ended up having some much much needed time with self as I was working from home today. Or, perhaps I feel so now that I have had a mug or two of the Bira Extra Strong Beer.
How could I have made today better?
  1. ..Schedule.  Morning Ritual. Missed you. If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there. 
  2. ..Baggage. Could have dropped it. Made a fresh start. Even more so, because it’s getting heavier.
  3. ..Could put more intention into the mix of things. More laughter. Smile. Love. After all, I can!

Isn’t That Man Enough?

Hey, why don’t you hold a hand too?“, Harshul asked.

We had formed a circle around folks who were dancing. I was sitting beside my friend, Harshul.

It was a friend’s house. Her parents were away and all of us belles and beaus from college were partying like there was no tomorrow

Harshul was known to be a thorough bully, a ruffian! One who couldn’t take NO for an answer. He was grabbing any random hand of the girls who were dancing in the middle and giving it a kiss.

The girls were all kind of okay with that. They didn’t object and their expression was nothing more than a “what a rogue!” or “what the Hell was that?” In fact, some were blushing as if they were grateful, “thank you for considering me worth it!

I was holding a pint of beer in my hand. So was Harshul, taking turns sipping beer and kissing a hand.

Is it his reputation which is letting him get away with that?“, I kept wondering.

Suddenly, Harshul peered over and asked, “Would you like to kiss a hand too?

I chose not to utter a word.

Saying No would have meant that “I was not being man enough!” and saying “Yes” would be disastrous.

But Harshul could not take that for an answer either. He insisted, “I’ll pass a hand over to you and then you can kiss!

Before I could answer, he grabbed a hand, brought it close to his own lips and then all of a sudden got it close to my face.

I used both my hands to hold my beer bottle and kept drinking straight from the bottle to avoid committing an act of folly!

C’mon! Do it!“, ordered Harshul.

I continued to hold the bottle to my mouth.

“Take that bottle aside and be a man!“, Harshul demanded.

Then I did something that would change my life forever. I actually took that hand and …gave it a kiss.

Before I knew it, the entire scene changed.

The music stopped.

The room which was dimly lit a while ago was now glowing with brightness.

A dozens of pairs of eyes were staring at me. Full with anger, disgust or disbelief.

The air felt tense. I started choking.

My mind started justifying my action, “Even Harshul did it. Then, no one had a problem. So, what is it that I have done so wrong that everyone is so damn offended?

Sides were formed. Everyone was either on the side of the victimized, traumatized girl or on my side. There was a lot of energy in the room. We could all hear a Bollywood song (was it “Hum bhi hai josh mein“) meaning “Even we’re full of vehemence“, playing at the local tea stall nearby.

Both sides wanted to win. 

To make it more interesting, Kirti (the girl with a hand) was there with her boyfriend, Jay.

Jay, 6 feet 2 inches, well-built man, slowly emerged from the opposite side and gave me a …a tight slap!

I almost saw my entire life pass by in front of my eyes in a flash.

My well-wishers from my side shouted and took out the hockey sticks. It’s impressive how they had arranged it resourcefully in no time.

Kirti was standing there too. I took a few steps forward toward the opposite side and did something I will never forget.

I turned around to face my side and said, “SHUT UP!

All I could now think was: “I have made a mistake. I have to own up to it“.

I then looked at Kirti and said, “Your friend has just given me a slap. I deserved that. I am standing in front of you in case you want to give me another one or a punch.!

And no matter how sissy it may sound, I added, “You are just like my sister!

I just left it at that. Nothing happened. There was no more drama. I felt slightly more at peace.


Let me ask you now: Have you NEVER made a mistake?

Well, if you have, then congratulations! It is said that, “ONE WHO MAKES NO MISTAKES DOES NOT USUALLY MAKE ANYTHING!

It doesn’t matter if you are making mistakes. What matters is what you do after that. You can either learn to accept it and become a better human being or remain in denial and become worse.

After a mistake, you can either fight or take a flight or go with a third alternative: ‘you can make amends and make friends‘.

WHY SHOULD YOU CHOOSE THE THIRD ALTERNATIVE:

  • Admitting your mistakes makes you learn from them and in turn makes you a better decision maker.
  • Saves you from a small issue snowballing into much BIGGER problems. Nip it in the bud by owning up and correcting course quickly.
  • Builds credibility and strengthens relationships. It may sound counter-intuitive but such contentious issues often lead to even deeper bonds.
NOT ADMITTING A MISTAKE IS A BIGGER MISTAKE Click To Tweet – ROBERT HALF

It has been 20 years since that college incident.

Kirti now lives in London. She has twin daughters. She didn’t marry Jay.

And just in case you are wondering how do I know, well that’s because Kirti and I ended up becoming great friends for life!

She never forgets to send me a RakhiNow, if that isn’t man enough, what is?

 

5-Bullet Friday: How to Handle ‘Insult’?

Hi All!

Here is your weekly dose of “5Bullet Friday,” a list of what I’m enjoying or pondering.

What I’m reading — 

The evergreen Zig Ziglar book, “Secrets of Closing the Sale“.

Has been on my shelf for a long long time, but just got to pick it up to read. The part I like is where Ziglar suggests that the salesperson has to paint a picture with words in front of the prospect. It is this picture that helps the prospect to realize what they can achieve with this investment.

Incidentally, I ran into this audio by Mr Ziglar where he emphasizes that a salesperson must use voice inflection to be able to convince the prospect.  Do listen to this when you have 32:16 mins.

What I’m watching —

I am loving watching the plays on Tata Sky Theatre. It is an investment of Rupees 3 a day that I have got so many returns from!

These plays are very realistic yet spine chilling, cover very bold/ taboo topics and keep you glued for hours.

Topics they cover are surrogacy, plight of a woman in Indian society, hunger for power, communities in India that openly practice prostitution…

I have loved every single play I have watched and some that have become my favorites for life are, “Maa Retire Hoti Hai” (Mother Also Retires!”), “Wrong Turn“, “OK TATA Bye Bye”, Savita Damodar Paranjpe”, “Kusum Manohar Lele”.

If you have any liking for theatre/ plays and if you haven’t subscribed to Tata Sky Theatre (or Zee Theatre), you don’t even know what you’re missing. Stop reading this, subscribe to Theatre and you may not return to reading the rest of this (and I’m okay with that!)

Resource I’m excited to explore —

I am super duper excited to explore LeaderBooks by Michael Hyatt.

What I decided to do was unsubscribe from LinkedIn and VivaVideo, (which I haven’t used to full in months) and take the subscription of Michael Hyatt’s LeaderBooks instead.

This will start in March and the way it goes is that Michael shares a book each month, which each of the members are supposed to read (or hear). Michael shares tools and tips and there is a community learning that happens for the chosen book of the month. This will result in absorbing the essence of the book completely by the end of the month.

Quote I’m pondering —

First they ignore you, then they laugh at you,

then they fight you, then you win!

– Mahatma Gandhi

Had a 1:1 conversation with 3 people last week. They had different names, looked different and worked in different teams. Yet, it was as if they are saying the same thing. “I don’t feel appreciated!“, “I am being shamed“, “No one understands me!

Well, to be honest, I have been through this and there are still challenges and struggles in my own life as well. But one thing is certain.

No one can insult you unless you allow them to do so.

Your self respect and your dignity is always in your hands.

No matter what. Here’s what Mr Ziglar has to say about this:

“An older salesman and a younger salesman are riding back home at the end of the week and involved in a serious conversation. The younger salesman was singing the blues about how badly he had been treated all week. Business was bad, people were rude, and he had been insulted time after time.

The older salesman grew thoughtful for a moment and then remarked,” Well, you know, I’ve had doors slammed in my face, I’ve been fussed at, cussed at, and even spit at, but INSULTED?!?!? Never!”

Well, I hope you liked this write-up and have something to take way.

And, as always, please give me feedback. Which bullet above is your favorite? What do you want more or less of? Other suggestions? Let me know!

Have a wonderful weekend, all!

Mohit

5-Bullet Friday: Unbelievably Simple Ways to Building Rapport!

Hi All!

Here is your weekly dose of “5Bullet Friday,” a list of what I’m enjoying or pondering.

What I’m reading — The 5AM CLUB by Robin Sharma. Read a few chapters and although I am not too fond of non-fiction being written in fiction format, the book has some good takeaways. Reason I bought this book is not hard to guess – I am moving toward getting up at 5AM, and having a much greater control over my mornings.

What I’m watching — Video on Building Rapport by Tony Robbins. It has amazing insights and powerful methods on building rapport. For example: having your palms casually placed and facing the roof, during an interview can increase your chances of being through by over 50%!

Resource I’m excited to explore — A friend of mine gave this e-book to me: The Creative Writers Workbook, by Catchy Birch. Thanks Adi for this for it seems like an unexpected treasure for me. This book is simple read with many cases studies to illustrate the point that writing and creativity can be mastered by consciously working towards it. That there is no point waiting for the right moment to come when you will get into the mood. Do things that cna set the mood for you today and everyday. It will help remove the obstacle biggest of which is the fear of ‘getting it wrong’.

I have read a couple of chapters and can’t wait to read the rest of it. Here’s an extract from the book:

Karen, one of my students, set herself that very task. She has two young children and works part-time as a computer programmer. As a teenager, she wrote short stories and poetry. For years she had been trying to find time to do this again, but somehow it had never happened. After discussing this in class she agreed that ten minutes a day would be considerably better than nothing. She decided to spend ten minutes of each lunch-break writing (in her car to make sure she was not disturbed). She used an old A4 diary for the purpose and filled a page each day. By the end of six months she had written over 80,000 words, which she is currently crafting into a very promising novel.

I’m looking forward to: applying the technique Tim Ferriss professes instead of doing the new year resolutions. Forget New Year Resolutions. Conduct a ‘Past Year Review” instead. Read this post for more.

Quote I’m pondering. ..In fact not just pondering, this quote was enough to give me to get up and get going on a cold winter morning (and I mean not just literally!)—

“It’s not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer could have done them better. The credit belongs t othe man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives to do the deeds; who errs, who comes up short again and again because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strives to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement. and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

(- Originally from Theodore Roosevelt, mentioned in The 5AM Club by Robin Sharma.)

And, as always, please give me feedback. Which bullet above is your favorite? What do you want more or less of? Other suggestions? Let me know!

Have a wonderful weekend, all!

Mohit

Which Are The Moments That Make You Happy?

“What should I do?”

“What should I do?”

“What should I do?”

Shouted Tanav, my 10 year old son.

It seemed as if whatever Deepti, my wife, was answering was falling on deaf ears..

In fact, it was worse. Every time Deepti suggested something to do to him, it was met with a loud “No!”, “No!”, “No!” and then the set of same questions came yet again:

“What should I do?”

“What should I do?”

“What should I do?”

The dramatic effect soared greater heights with every new iteration. Deepti’s attempt at maintaining calm was fading away. Tanav was on a roll (well, literally) on the floor, and the overall audio-visual effects accentuated the impact!

As you can guess, the situation was soon out of control.

That’s a common story at our home. Every other day these questions set come back. And, I don’t recall even once when any of the options presented by me or Deepti have been received in a welcoming way. Not once.

“Why’s that?”, I have often wondered, but never have I found a convincing answer!

But I have kept searching for the answer. They say, “What you seek is seeking you!” and I finally found the answer in an unusual way, and without even realizing it.

What happened is that I myself ended up being in a situation where I didn’t know what to do. With my life.

Deep down within myself, I ended up shouting out the same set of questions:

“What should I do?”

“What should I do?”

“What should I do?”

I asked friends too. And each time someone advised, I too, like the kids, was infuriated and shouted, “No!”, “No!”, “No!” and, before long, the set of same questions came yet again, and again and again.

I was trying to find what was the right thing for me to do. However, I couldn’t find any help with that!

It was yet another meanigless morning. I was struggling to even find a reason to get dressed for work. The sameness of my days was haunting me so much that I was tempted to ask myself, “Is it yesterday or today?”

I paid little heed to the words emanating from the kitchen. It was Mom, who has a habit of singing old, long lost phrases while working in the kitchen:

Kiya karo kuch kiya karo udhaed kae bhi siya karo. (Hindi)

Do Something. Anything.  Even if it means to unstitch a cloth only to stitch it again. (English translation)

Although I had hardly paid any attenton to that, but I believe that phrase had a seminal impact on my ‘decision’ in the evening.. a decision to do something.

I decided to stand for the position of President and VP-Education for our Toastmaster’s club. Something that was out of my comfort zone – a stetch goal but not an unrealistic one. I felt better. Happier.

I considered why I would be the right person for the job. How will I serve the members. I prepared a speech. (You can find the speech here!) I did this. I did that. I had a purpose. I was busy working toward that.

I understood the way out of the situation when you don’t quite know what to do. In that sutuation, no matter what anyone suggests to you- your boss, your spouse, your friend, you will never find happiness in that.

Even if.. the suggestion came with the best of intentions.

Even if.. it was the right thing for you to do.

Even if.. it was the most fun thing to do.

“Why?” you’d ask.

Well, simply because it was their decision and not yours! That’s it!

The only way out of the situation is to decide yourself. Do listen to others, but then (and don’t delay too much!), after all, decide yourself – it’s fine if that decision is impeccably right, or downright wrong. Decide to do something. Decide to not do something. But decide. And yourself.

“Why?” you’d ask again.

Because more than the coutome, you will be happier that you decided: Something. Anything. Doesn’t matter if it’s right or wrong. Whether it will succeed or fail. It’s your’s after all. That’s why you will cherish it.

After the election process was done, I achieved my goal of being a part of the Executive committee for the club.

I reached home and shared the news, “Know what sweetheart, I am the VP-Education for this term“. Of course everyone at home cheered.

A little later, Dinky, my wife asked me, “Are you happy?

I said, “Yes I’m happy I am the VP-Education! But I’m even more happier for the moment when I decided I want to be so!

Coincidently, I held that position before as well, but that time it was just offered to me and I took it. The happiness didn’t last a day. It was all over even before it started. This time is different though. It’s my baby. I love it.

As for my real babies, I had barely finished writing this blog, when Sohana, my 5 year old daughter asked, “What should I do?”

I put my laptop aside and said “Well, as for me, I have decided to go out for a walk, may be you can decide something to do too!

Next thing I see is that Sohana and her brother are wearing their jackets and boots to step out in the chill to play in the park.

I have my script ready for times to come when this question would be asked.

Well, as for me, I have decided to ___, may be you can decide something to do too!

Only pre-requisite: Be upto something yourself too. Soon, it will rub off on them. Fill the ____ with what you have decided to do at the time. Such as:

___ : write a poem for family

___ : read Becoming by Michele Obama

___ : go for a morning walk

I thought they might be perplexed with that response. To which I would simply respond, “It’s okay sweetheart. Now Decide. Commit. Believe. Act.


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When Was The Last Time You Did Something For The First Time?

Find something to do. Anything. Be of use. Serve. Act. Mantra to live a happy life.

The years’ that go wasted are the only ones that add up to our old age.

I decided to stand for the position of President and VP-Education for our Toastmaster’s club. Definitely it is out of my comfort zone. But then, opportunity for growth doesn’t sit in the comfort zone, does it?

This was indeed the first time I intentionally decided to stand for these positions. Although, I have been VP-Education and President earlier, but that was more of a by default selection for a declining club. Not my decision. (Someone else’s decision will never hardly ever make you happy! Read more on that here!)

So, this is something new I’m up to. For some, this may be a big deal, for some not so. Doesn’t matter. It’s enough to nudge me into some anxiety which is often the predecessor to the creative thinking process.

If one stand for the EC (Executive Committee roles), one has to give a short (2 minutes) speech to convince the members to vote for them.

Here are the scripts for the speeches I prepared for the two positions (of course to be given in the Toastmaster’s style with the body language and voice modulation)

Part 1 – Script: President Campaign Speech

How many of you have had an out of body experience?

Well, I had one yesterday.

Actually, I was supposed to prepare a two minute speech on Why should I be the President. In other words: Why should anyone vote for me?

In order to do so, I thought let me forget about everyone else, and see if I myelf would vote for this guy called Mohit Sawhney!

So, I stepped out of my body and carefully considered the following:

  1. Does he put his heart and soul into whatever role he plays – in his speeches, during his evaluations, other roles he plays, The Scoop magazine..?
  2. Are interactions with him enagaging and uplifting?
  3. Does he bring something new to the table?

Since I got some promising answers, then further considered the following additional questions:

  1. Has he any noteworthy achievements?
  2. Is he committed to make everyone’s experience a delightful one?
  3. Is his own value system aligned with that of Toastmasters: Respect, Integrity, Service, Excellence?

You seem curious about the answers I got. Well, but today, my answers aren’t as important as yours!

  • Vote for Mohit if you think you have enough reasons to believe that you’d answer in a YES to all of these questions.
  • Vote for Mohit if you believe he would be justify the role of the President.

Part 2 – Script: VP- Education

Since I was having an OBE experience (which is not easy to come by!), I thought I’d use the opportunity to consider a difference aspect:

If there is one reason I wouldn’t vote for Mohit, what would it be?

Instantly came the reply: There isn’t anything too great about him!

He seems to be having his own fears and vulnerablilities. He seems to be unsure and still on his own journey of self discovery.

Well.. then I thought a bit further and asked myself: Is there anything wrong with that?

Isn’t it okay to be fearful, as long as you have the courage to face up to your fears.

Isn’t it okay to be vulnerable, as long as you have the integrity to stand up to your true self!

… and isn’t it okay to be unsure, as long as you keep taking risks to grow yourself and people around you?

I leave the decision up to you. And I leave you with this quote from Zig Ziglar:

You don’t have to be great to start,

but you have to start to be great!


It’s quite an experience to see the Elections at Toastmasters clubs. It give the flavor of a real (government) election. Late entrants, secretive talks, some expected and a lot of unexpected winners, sadness in the eyes of the one’s who lost and “Of course I won. I’m the best, after all!” written all of the winner’s faces. 

The best part of the Toastmasters election process is that the results are declared there and then. One doesn’t have to wait and see the twists and turns as the votes are beingcounted. That quick result takes care of the anxiety levels to an extent.

When I reached home and shared that I am the VP-Education, of course everyone cheered. Dinky, my wife asked me, “Are you happy?

I said, “Yes I’m happy I won! But I’m happier for that moment of time when I decided I’d stand for the position.

It is in the moment’s of decision that your destiny is shaped – Tony Robbins


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Five Minute Journal – Which Are The Two Most Powerful Words?


Quote of the day: If not you, then who? If not now, then when?

Short and sweet. But if your heart desires for more (like mine), then here’s my all time favorite chinese proverb on similar lines:

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now!”


(START OF THE DAY)

I am grateful for…

  1. ..having food on my table, clothing on my back and a roof over my head. Did you know: that if you have all of the above, then you are richer than 75% population in the world!
  2. ..having the realization dawn on me relatively early that one can always, (yes always!), look at life as incomplete or complete regardless of ones position – be it in terms of your position in the organizational hierarchy, financial success or even spiritual growth! While there is nothing wrong in desiring more, this realization helps one accept oneself fully and surrender, which leads to a more natural growth.
  3. ..having read The 4-Hour Workweek many years ago! This book had a profound impact on me. I have been following the author, Tim Ferriss, ever since. It opens you to a whole new world and it’s surprising how the author thought much ahead of his time (book was released in 2007). If you’re struggling with a morning routine, here’s Tim’s morning routine that you can use as reference.

What would make today great?

  1. Review the week that went, bring it to the a logical close, and write down the top three goals for next week.
  2. Writing 750words. If you haven’t already explored the idea of 750words.com, do visit the site and subscribe for a month for free and see how this seemingly small change when done consistently changes your life.
  3. Go for a morning nature walk to unclutter the mind, and open it to fresh new ideas.
Daily affirmations. I am …radiating grace!
 
Amazing things that happened today…
  1. Eating new/ good food ends up being in this section quite often for me. That is surprising (for me, yes!) because until not so long ago I didn’t tread the path not taken as far as food is concerned. Happy for that change in me. Live Wok, the chinese food chain served good Hakka noodles with chicken gravy. Although the wait was long but as they say all’s well that ends well.
  2. Getting a few really good opportunities to write good writing and getting positive recognition for it. Every one often needs a nudge to create something worthwhile.
  3. Glad to have reached home in decent time (8:40 PM, I target 8 PM but given that I had to do the weekly roundup, 8:40 is not bad!) Besides, the traffic was not all that bad and I could have a drink and have a meal with family. Precious.

Family that eats together stays together!

How could I have made today better?
  1. There were times during the day where I felt I lacked clarity. Perhaps, it is clutter that has accumulated over time, or it is worrying over something that’s out of my control. Solution: me time and good use of it. Emptying the BS in the head must be our top priority. Next on the priority list: have  a goal to accomplist for the day that’s coming. Of course planning ahead is important but after having done that, all one needs is faith and daily action.
  2. Having an extra drink or perhaps the brand causes me a slight headache. Now that I know this, why don’t I change brand or stop having one for the go. Some people, won’t learn. Remember Einstein’s definition of stupidity
    Stupidity: Doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results! Click To Tweet