7 Reasons Why You Should Join “Toastmasters Club of West Delhi”!

In my case it was love at first sight!

I remember my first meeting as a guest. The next thing I know is falling head over heels in love. Here’s why:

  1. The Trust Factor: Each one of the role players was performing their role for the first time: Toastmaster or the Day, Timer, Ah Counter.. Unique and courageous idea. Is that even possible? And each one of them did so well that one couldn’t tell they were first timers until told! Putting that kind of trust in the members would have taken their confidence to another level!
  2. Makes You Feel at Home: Speakers were free of fear– felt at home, perhaps even more than that. As if they knew they’re in a place where everyone is there to bring out the best in them. 

    Evaluation should be like your best friend’s advice – Rajendra Popli

  3. Timings and Location: Excellent for me! Actually not just for me, working people and students will all prefer to attend the Sunday morning (1030 to 1230 hours) meeting. Besides the learning, it’s a great way to kick start and gain momentum on your otherwise lazy Sunday mornings.
  4. Guests are Guests:
    1. It was a pleasant surprise to win the Best Table Topics Speaker award. I didn’t even think I was eligible because usually clubs don’t consider guests for evaluations/ certificates / awards. But then these are the things that make this club unique. They made is so special for me (and for all guests!).
    2. The acting President asked me and other guests to come on the stage and present the most important award – The Best Speaker Award. I haven’t seen that in any other club. It’s totally like TMWD stole my heart in a subtle and yet very genuine way.
  5. The Little BIG Things:
    1. I loved the fact that they offered snacks and drinks during the break. (Well, I know some clubs who keep you hungry!). Especially liked the fact that they had kept bottled water also (easily forgettable) because I don’t take sodas at all.
    2. As I was stepping out after the meeting, I met the lady who played the Table Topics Master. I told her, “It was lovely to be here. You all were very welcoming.” She responded very matter of factly – – “That will be na. We’re family..” Then she added, ” I want to see you next time.” Her simple words have stayed with me.
    3. Guests are referred as “Potential Toastmasters” instead of “Guests.” Yet another subtle and yet very powerful way of making guests feel a part of the ‘TMWD family.’
  6. Lights are ON and Everyone’s Home
    1. The acting President indicated to me to enter the meeting only during applause. She was present. In fact everyone seemed to be so fully present.
    2.  I was encouraged to give a Table Topics speech. At the end of the meeting, guests were invited to say a few words. As I was thanking the club, the acting President said, “We’re honored to have you here!” I was floored!
  7. Genuineness!: Everyone at the club is following and encouraging others to follow their dreams and passions. They’re all from different walks and in different seasons of life and yet they all exuded a strange genuineness. All trying to make the world a little better in their own small little way. It shows. It attracts. 

I am blown with TMWD. Hats off!

In a Toastmasters world where clubs do many things to push you into joining them, here is a club that you will get naturally pulled towards. Attend a meeting as a guest and find out for yourself.

Meanwhile, TMWD folks, keep doing what you are doing. You are awesome!

Are You Feeding Your Child’s Curiousity?

Dad brought a street puppy home last week in the morning. It was a weekday, so Tanav, my 7 year old son, was out to school at that time. Sohana, my 3 year old daughter, was home though. She had a wonderful time. She goes to her playschool at 11 AM so there was enough time for her to play with this little guy.

By the time Tanav came home, Dad had already taken the puppy back to its mother. Sohana considers this even more fun because she had the exclusive privilege to meet with the pup, and Tanav missed it!

That’s how kids are. Actually, adults are no different, except may be us adults are worse.

Anyway, Sohana shared it with Tanav adding all the intricate details which left him heartbroken. He had missed out on all the fun!

So, Tanav was after Grandpa to bring the puppy again at a time when he was home. After some pestering, Grandpa decided to take the kids to show the puppies. Both Tanav and Sohana headed out with great enthusiasm.

When they returned, Tanav suddenly asked, “Where do we human babies get milk from?

Apparently, when went there, the puppy was busy being nursed by its mother along with his other 5 siblings. That explained his curiosity.

Quite frankly, whenever such difficult question comes, the first reaction is to skirt it. It is a taboo topic afterall. That’s what we did too. He asked a couple of times, and moved on to something else.

Next day, as Deepti, my wife and I were going to work, we talked about it and decided that we should not ignore our little ones innocent questions. If we did that, he would ultimately stop asking us questions. In any case, children curiosity needs to be fed and he would look for answers from other people or places. We don’t want to take that risk.

In the evening, Deepti explained to Tanav, of course in an age appropriate way, how mums nurse and breastfeed their babies.

Kamasutra
Kamasutra

Tanav even had counter questions such as, “Can a Mom feed someone else’s baby?” and “How long does a baby need to be breastfed?”.

It was difficult for Deepti to share this but we’re glad she did.

Just when we felt relaxed to have been successful in climbing a little parental hill, there was more coming.

Tanav was watching TV, a song was playing that had caught the little man’s attention. I knew something was brewing in his mind. Moments later he asked, “Papa, What is Kamasutra?

Whoever said parenting was easy!

How to Change A Dull Day Into A Memorable One?

Can you believe how easy it is to change a usual working day into one that we can cherish for times to come?

All it needs is a bit of effort and clear intention to make your relationship grow. My wife, Deepti and I drive back together from work. I was tired and worked up with my mind preoccupied with work related worries. What didn’t go well today, planning tomorrow and other usual stuff. Deepti asked me “Why are you taking a different route today?”

I had taken a turn towards Satya Niketan while we usually go via Dhaula Kuan.

Before I could answer, she added, “Is it because you want to take me out on a coffee date?”

I said, “Yes, of course!” (even though the reality was that I had decided to take the other route hoping there would be less traffic. )

I could have closed the little window of opportunity had I said, “Are you kidding. I have had a long day and I better get home and take some rest!)

On the way, to the coffee shop, we saw many young college-going couples. I wrapped my arms around Deepti the way some of those youngsters were wrapping theirs around their girlfriends. It felt great. I felt younger. All this sounds normal if you’re with your girlfriend or boyfriend, or if you’re recently married but not when you are married for 10 years, and have two small children. Generally, romance ends up taking a backseat and neglect takes the front seat as far as the partners are concerned.

Anyway, we went to Cafe Coffee Day that stands right opposite Venkateshwara college. Deepti ordered a Chocolate Brownie with a Vanilla scoop. I decided that we also have a Latte. We shared our coffee and brownie. We started talking and we got to know things about each other that we didn’t ever know. In fact, we shared a few things that we hadn’t shared with anyone else before!

Our high school days and how we felt in our adolescence.

It is Tuesday today, have to go to work tomorrow and have the rest of the work week waiting to be taken care of. We had stolen just one hour in a week which has taken our relationship in an upward direction. What a fantastic investment of time! All this started with a simple question. Not all days are like that or can be like that. But I think the question really is: Are we paying attention and looking for opportunities to change a simple, run of the mill kind of day into one that becomes a lifetime memory?

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In our case, we do. Thank you God for that. Being intentional about this is half the battle won.

We don’t feel guilty for stealing some time for each-other. I was listening to a Barry Ham podcast today where he mentions that many parents give up on the relationship with their partners so badly that they start looking for a husband or wife in their children (for emotional support).

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Strength of relationship and bonding between partners also gives children a better sense of security, peace and happiness. So, keep looking for opportunities to make your bond stronger. Wish ya the best!